Imagine going on a date with someone who is already excited to meet you?
You know that what you have to offer is the stuff that makes them swoon.
Imagine that you feel the same way!
Kind of like being pre-approved for a low interest mortgage.
Doesn’t that feel relaxed?
Can’t you just see yourself laughing, sharing stories, flirting, engaging?
Don’t you feel your defenses melt?
Now imagine that they are serious about finding a relationship!
They aren’t there for an ego boost.
You aren’t a quick stop in a shopping spree.
You won’t be bumped for newer, shinier merchandise.
How does it feel to know they want to put some effort in?
Initiative.
Self insight.
They want to dig in, lean in, make something of something.
Like you they are envisioning a fuller life, a best friend, lover, confidante. The parent to their unborn children. The last-best love they hold hands with on the park bench, or dive the deep seas with.
But don’t stop there.
There is more!
Imagine, if you will, that you have ‘shared pillars’ of long term compatibility.
What?!! You gasp.
Could it be?
What if, instead of those crushes on your barista, your workmate, the cutie at the local venue that you have yet to find out is heavily into…raising rats, or conspiracy theories (not the real ones, lol), or what was that scene from the Steve Martin film all of those years back when Sarah Jessica Parker takes him for an enema on a first date…very incompatible, uncomfortable, sketchy or scary things.
Yes what if instead of that, you line up?
You have complimentary visions of your relationship future.
There are no glaring unsolvable deal breaking glitches.
And, last but not least…
What if all of this is delivered to your front door (that’s a metaphor) tied in a bow of connection?
Connection is that thing that’s hard to do these days because of date shopping, and apps, and Covid, and robots.
What if you were already half way to it; steeped in an environment conducive to it?
What if you felt warm, at ease, playful, supported going into a date?
Appreciated, understood and seen for all the good you-ju.
I can tell you what.
You would feel confident.
You would engage differently.
Your most winsome self would not be hidden, lost or obscured.
They would steal the show.
You would save yourself so much time.
And heartache.
And emotional energy.
Doubt, uncertainty, confusion, sadness, frustration.
I have more adjectives where those came from.
I’ve been spending some time in my mom’s little beach town this week.
It’s a pretty small town.
There’s a place I call “The Shop”.
There isn’t just one shop, but I make it sound that way.
I was hoping to have time to stop at the shop today, I’ll say.
Everyone laughs.
The funny thing is, I live in a big metro city, and yet I actually do most of my shopping here.
And there is a reason for it.
When I walk through the magical quiet streets, decorated with a few lovely boutiques, I enjoy myself.
I can focus.
I’m not overwhelmed by all of the crappy discount venues.
The goods I don’t want to ponder, or linger over.
I don’t have to weed through 80 percent of things I don’t want, don’t suit, won’t fit, or aren’t quality to get to the lovely things. The designers I like. The whimsical fashions. The curated.
I have a relationship with the owner, and the staff.
They know the brands I like.
They know what I look good in.
They ask about my family.
When I am out and about in my big city I’m always asked “where did you get that, where did you find that?”
And I laugh. Oh, at a boutique in a small town.
We’re so inundated with information, and consumables, and choices today. It’s exhausting.
And it’s one of many reasons that online dating platforms are broken.
There is too much meaningless choice, too much work involved, no way to focus.
No connection, helping us to connect.
No relationships helping us to relate.
That is the difference with Dateable, it occurred to me today.
Welcome to my beach shop for love, lol.
Where we weed through the 80 percent that isn’t going to fit you, or fit with you, the shopping mall of dating.
Where we stock the shelves with meaningful choices, things that will excite you, beauty and substance.
Where the experience of dating can feel joyful once again.
Hopeful.
Where you can relax and engage and connect.
Let down your guard.
I was sharing with a new client the other day, just what we do behind the scenes in a matchmaking company.
Sure there is some secret sauce to it all. We put so much work and expertise into making it work for you.
We have the conversations.
We build the relationships.
We know the questions to ask.
We solve the problems.
We build the community.
We foster the connection.
If you want to hire for your company, you don’t post a help wanted ad and cross your fingers. You go to the experts. You don’t want to guess, doubt, deliberate. You don’t want to start from scratch.
You want to sit across from a person who surprises and delights you.
You want a crush that leads to long term.
You don’t want hear it from your peeps again.
Not another crazy, too young, too old, too rich, too broke, too mean, too superficial, too soft, too too too not you.
So I invite you to come shop with us at The Shop.
Surprise yourself.
Let us surprise you.
Because that starry eyed love?
Well it looks really good on you.
Much love,
Erin